There are many reasons people get stressed. Here are a few Cypriot ‘stressors’
- Pressure from ‘outside sources.’ Those are family, friends, the boss, children and husband or boyfriend. They all have an opinion and need to speak their mind. How can you drown them out?
- Stressful Thoughts of the mind, which have no basis to reality. It is Mind versus Reality. As John Milton said in ‘Paradise Lost,’ -‘The mind is its own place, and in itself / Can make a Heav’n of Hell, a Hell of Heav’n.’
- Financial Stresses- How will you get by? How will you pay for certain things? Bills? Holidays? School or University fees? Visits to the hairdresser’s?
- Banks and bank managers- the stress of those in debt, who can’t pay their loans..there is no getting away with it. On the other hand we also have those who suffer from the ‘silly spending syndrome.’
- Noise- created by those around you. Noise pollution of trucks and cars, noisy cafeteria, adolescents and grown men talking too loudly. People talking on their phones.
- Keeping up Appearances- How can I compete with everyone else? I must also take my child to swimming lessons, tennis, karate, chess, piano, ballet, football and water polo, overload them with activities and then they have no time to play, to colour and draw or just simply kick a football around with their friends in the park. They cry because they are so tired and overworked, like the adults. Problems arise. Anger which can lead to discontent, depression, drug and alcohol abuse as well as smoking.
- Educated or Dropouts? Those who feel like failures because they never had anyone as a role- model.Those ‘dropouts’ who nobody ever believed in, who nobody ever asked how they are feeling and what they hope for the future…those on the sidelines, who were told they would never get into university…The philosopher Epictetus once said ‘It is not things in themselves that trouble us but our opinion of things.’ He believed that all external events are beyond our control; we should accept calmly and dispassionately whatever happens. However, individuals are responsible for their own actions, which they can examine and control through rigorous self-discipline.