Counselling: A Map for Emotional Wellbeing - Mala Khare

Australian qualified counsellor experienced with expatriates; university lecturer (Psychology) counsels for a range of issues including interpersonal relationships, depression, anxiety and personal growth. Phone counselling available. Regus One Fullerton

Psychological Counselling is designed to assist people trapped by the problems of everyday living. The process is an interaction between a therapist and a client, leading to changes from less to more adaptive state of thoughts, feelings and behaviour. Also known as psychotherapy or talk therapy, it heals emotional distress by psychological methods. 

Personal and psychological problems interfere with innumerable aspects of our lives, causing significant impairment and distress to our mental and physical wellbeing. Emotions are intimately linked with our physical health. Not merely states of the mind, the negative impact of stress, anxiety, sadness is not limited to our relationships and effective functioning at work, but also affects our physical health.

Physical symptoms for which medical tests cannot identify the cause, such as constant fatigue, aches and pains, dizziness and insomnia, are often simply the ways some of us process our emotions. Carrying emotional wounds from childhood may cause us insidiously to repeat the same negative cycles of behaviour. Total wellbeing requires a balance between physical, emotional and mental health. Counselling offers a map to emotional wellbeing, shining a light on emotional baggage and clarifying negative emotions.

About The Counsellor:

Mala Khare

My family relocated to Singapore fifteen years ago. My educational qualifications include a Masters in Psychology and a Masters in Social Science (Counselling). Trained in understanding human behaviour and in facilitating personal and interpersonal functioning, I provide counselling in a supportive and confidential environment. I offer individual, couple and family therapy sessions for men, women and children. I also teach undergraduate courses in psychology and counselling at different teaching institutes such as University of Wollongong (SIM Global).

Who needs to see a counsellor?

As general rule, if you are satisfied with your life, then is no need for counselling. However, if significant people in your life believe otherwise, do reflect on that need, which could have been swept under the carpet.

Areas that frequently benefit by gaining psychological insight are:

  • Difficulty finding or staying in fulfilling relationships 
  • Frequent arguing and conflicts with ones partner or family 
  • Depression 
  • Loneliness 
  • Anxiety and constant worrying 
  • Feelings of purposelessness 
  • Procrastination 
  • Indecisiveness 
  • Negative body image 
  • Various addictions 
  • Anger 
  • Lack of confidence 
  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Low self-esteem

About The Practice:

Here you can learn strategies to deal with:

  • Resolving conflicts
  • Effective parenting skills
  • Managing stress
  • Personal growth

Major life transitions such as:

  • Divorce
  • Loss of a loved one
  • Loss of a job that was important to you

Adjustment challenges of expatriate wives, for example:

  • Feelings of rootlessness in a foreign culture
  • Change in identity from working to a stay at home life style
  • Raising third culture kids

The first counselling session:

Often, the first session is used for evaluation purposes, assessing whether you feel comfortable and whether I am able to offer you what you are seeking. Research suggests that a good fit between the counsellor/therapist and client is of utmost importance for successful therapy.

An average session is for 60 minutes but if you wish, can be prefixed for longer.

Subsequent counselling sessions:

Based on our initial meeting, we will come to an agreement regarding the next step of the process. Meetings typically take place once a week but can be adapted to differing needs. For some clients, 2-6 sessions can be sufficient to make the necessary changes. Others may wish to continue exploring their experiences over a longer period.

Intervention/therapeutic techniques:

There are many intervention and therapy techniques on offer. My decision to choose any specific technique is based on the clients needs.

Some are based on the premise that past experiences cause current psychological problems and therefore, that realisations about the causes of our behaviour can lead to changes for the better. Other techniques rest on the assumption that underlying negative thoughts lead to negative emotions and that people have the ability to change their thought patterns without having to understand why they behave as they do.

Question: How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb?
ANSWER: Only one, but the bulb must really want to be changed.

Motivation and willingness to change is seen to be more important than the techniques.


Counselling: A Map for Emotional Wellbeing

1 Fullerton Road, #02-01 One Fullerton, Singapore 049213

Phone: +65 9145 8430